‘Waving Backwards’ Book Launch Reminds that Family is All

To say I was nervous on Friday July 10th is an understatement. I arrived at the Marriott Riverfront in Savannah a couple of hours early for set up and to  sign dozens of pre-sale books. My niece who was visiting from North Carolina sat in the passenger seat assuring me that it would be a grand success. She was one of many angels who helped me shine that night.

After speaking to spectacular Marriott staffer, Cindy Johnson, about the arrangement of food tables, I was finally able to greet my publisher Terri Gerrell of SYP Publishing. She found me a signing spot at a large table, suggesting that I sit and breath. She reminded me that I was the author.booklaunch5

I watched as the lobby was transformed into a sparkling party place. Musician Greg Williams arrived on time, wearing a guitar and easy smile. The palm rose maker, Peanut (the oldest artisan on River Street) sashayed  in with a shoulder loaded with palm fronds. Plans fell into place. Imaginings became reality.

Like the moment when a storm passes, and a first ray of sunlight appears, the literary launch I had dreamed of was born. Three years prior, as I sat in the same lobby writing Waving Backwards, I had no way of knowing that we would launch the book there. I did not even know if the book would be published.booklaunch9

Perched happily at my very first book signing table on Friday night, I had hardly taken a breath before a stream of well-wishers arrived. Family, friends, new friends, book lovers, tourists, all stopped to say hello; purchase a book; take a photo. When the first reader asked to have her photo taken with me, I glanced over my shoulder wondering if she meant someone else.booklaunch2

An hour or so into the signing, a voice rose above the murmur of party goers. It was instantly recognizable, and transported me back to the age of seven. I said, “That cannot be the voice I think it is.” When I finished signing the book in front of me, I looked up and there stood a woman I had not seen in a dozen years. It was my adoptive mother’s youngest sister. The aunt who taught me about Barbies and The Beatles had traveled from New York to Savannah to attend my book launch.

In rare moments, when I was able to pause from signing and look around that booklaunch6night, I witnessed my biological and adoptive families in a wash of commonality that sent shivers down my spine. My birth mother posed with my adoptive mother. My adoptive and blood brothers discussed movies and shared a toast. My nieces from both sides of the adoption triad chatted, smiled, shared.

I searched thirteen years to find my biological family, and while they have met my adoptive family before, this was the first celebration we shared as one brood, one clan, one bright reminder of the importance of nature and nurture.

My friends too, joined the fray of family that night as they learned who I look like, who I grew with, who I love, and who loves me back. From our local book club; to a group  I spend Sundays with exploring the world via documentaries; the night was a perfect celebration of the ‘Waving Backwards’ message.booklaunchbertice

Family is all. No matter how they come to join you, family is made of the connections that define us. 

Open records for all adoptees at age eighteen, and access to Original Birth Certificates (OBCs) is essential! All adoptees deserve to experience the completeness and co-mingling that permeated my book launch.

The time for adoptee rights is now.

Blessings and thanks to everyone who attended the Waving Backwards book launch. Thank you city of Savannah, friends and family!  I love you!
Hugs, V.L.

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‘Daughters of Deceit’ Book to Present Story of UK Adoption Reunion

Keep your eye out for a new book, that will chronicle adoptee (and Women’s Open Golf champion) Jenny Lee Smith’s reunion with her birth family in the UK.

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After finding out (late in life) that her parents were not her biological parents,  Jenny sought, and found her birth mother.  Her birth mother died not long after the reunion.

Smith also discovered that she had a half-sister, Helen Edwards.  Helen knew nothing of her sister’s existence. The book, which is being considered by several publishers, was  co-authored by the sisters, and shares the secrets, turmoil and triumphs of their journey to reunion.

You can read more about the book and their story in this Chronicle Live UK article, and more about Helen Edwards & Jenny Lee Smith at their homepage.

Looking forward to this one!

Welcome adoptees, birth parents, and anyone in search.

My name is V.L. Brunskill. I am an adoptee,  search angel, and a writer. I live near beautiful Savannah, Georgia, and have known my truth since 1991. After a seven year search, I found my birthmother, and after another five years,  my birthfather.

I moved south to be closer to my birth family. However, I only retain a relationship with my birth mother. I moved my adoptive mother with me to Georgia.

The decision to search for one’s birth family is wrought with emotion, and the search  is a twisting road of mystery, disappointment, elation and wonder.

Finding is a rebirth, and I have found that most of adoptees spend a myriad of time dreaming of reunion, but very little time preparing for the truth. I have helped many adoptees, by sharing the way my search unfolded (in the days before the wonderful Web), and I hope  to help many more.

This blog will share reunion stories from the news, my experiences, offer advice and help for those searching, and hopefully shed new light on being a member of the adoption triangle. The triangle includes adoptees, birth parents, and adoptee parents.

I will also share books, sites, and other resources as I discover them, in hopes that it will ease your path to wholeness.

I recently completed a novel titled Waving Backwards and will share the path to publication with you as well.

Welcome and happy reading!

V.L.